Doyel: I see these middle schoolers, and a lot of high schoolers, and they just all thing that relationships are a game.

We both agreed that 98% of all relationships before graduation from high school amount to one of two things:

1. Sex, or
2. Spite.

We have also noticed that very few people ever enter one purely out of feelings for another. Why is this?

It is my belief that one of the two conditions listed above inevitably leads to the other. Take this situation, for instance:

Let's say there was a boy named Justin and a girl named Christina. They "date" for a month or so, and then one decides to dump the other for an either unknown or unreasonable motive. One can guess that this relationship was or was going to be based on sex, as one can observe that the two never (or hardly ever) talked, but yet seemed to be hanging all over each other for the time the were "dating."

Out of spite, Justin would then ask out a girl named, let's say, Candice. They would go to Homecoming, but nothing would ever come of it. One could then assume that this later, short-lived relationship was out of spite, especially after hearing rumours on this subject.

It saddens me to say that these "hypothetical," soap-opera-esque events I have described are, in fact, true, and that all of this happened inside the marching band and its colourguard (please consult number three in my disclaimer).

Why do teenagers need to "date" each other out of spite? I'm supposing that they are trying to show the other that they can live separated, despite they told their other absolutely nothing personal, thus there was no trust, which is something I consider wholly crucial in a relationship, between the two.

The sex problem is obvious: teenagers are, by nature, hormonal, and thus permanently excited sexually.

Through observations in this and years past, I've found certain conditions that are completely pivotal to have in a relationship (in no particular order):

1. Trust.
2. Affection (to a certain degree).
3. Understanding (especially of each other's differences).
4. Caring.

I believe that if anyone, even those past school-age, simply try to practice my four points, they can be in a better relationship with their significant other.

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